For many people, the festive season is packed with social events – from work parties and get-togethers with friends to family celebrations. These moments can bring so much joy and connection, but they can also start to feel overwhelming, especially when your calendar fills up faster than you’d like. Finding a balance between socialising and giving yourself some downtime is key – it’s not just about protecting your wellbeing during the season, but also making sure you’re recharging properly. After all, you want to start the new year feeling rested, not exhausted!
Here are some simple, straightforward strategies to help you take care of yourself while still enjoying the festive fun. Some of these might seem obvious, but they can actually be tricky to put into practice. I recommend noting which ones you struggle with the most so you can start being more aware of when you’re not putting yourself first enough.
Give Yourself Permission to Say No
You don’t have to say yes to every invite that comes your way. Focus on the events that truly bring you joy or mean something to you. It’s also okay to show up to an event but intentionally leave earlier than everyone else if you feel you need to recharge.
Try this: Use what I call the ‘sandwich technique’ to decline invitations without over-apologising. Something like: “I’d love to, but I’m keeping things low-key this season to stay balanced. I hope you have a wonderful time, and I’m excited to catch up in the New Year.”
Plan Rest Like You Plan Events
Just like you make time for socialising, make sure you schedule intentional downtime. Set aside evenings or weekends for relaxation and treat them like any other important event. Look at your social calendar ahead of time and build in those restful moments to keep your energy in check – for more on this, check out my post on The Stress Cycle.
Try this: Give these rest slots names, like “Recharge Night” or “Cosy Time,” to reinforce why you’re being purposeful with this time.
Create Mini Solo Rituals to Recharge
When you can’t take a full day or night off, small solo rituals can still give you those needed moments of calm. It could be a 10-minute morning coffee ritual, a short walk, a bath, an early night, or even a quick mindfulness session before bed.
Try this: Pair a ritual with something sensory (like lighting a candle) to signal to your brain it’s time to unwind.
Balance Social Time with Personal Needs
If you’re an introvert (or just need more downtime in general), balance busy days with quieter evenings. Opt for smaller, more low-key social gatherings – coffee catch-ups or intimate dinners instead of big parties.
Try this: Take a “one day on, one day off” approach, alternating between social days and rest days when possible.
Communicate Your Needs to Loved Ones
Being open about your need for balance can help avoid misunderstandings. Let your friends and family know you’re aiming to be more mindful and balanced this season.
Try this: Frame it in a positive way, like: “I’m trying to be present at each event, so I’m being mindful of how much I commit to.”
Skip Alcohol on Low-Key Nights
On those quieter nights or when you’re feeling low on energy, try skipping the alcohol. While it might seem like a great way to unwind or get into the festive spirit, it can actually disrupt your sleep and leave you feeling groggy the next day. A clear head also makes it easier to stick to your self-care plans and make better choices with your time and energy.
Try this: Enjoy a hot chocolate, a non-alcoholic cocktail, or some sparkling water with a slice of lemon or cucumber. These options still feel festive without messing with your sleep and energy.
Prioritising ‘You’ During the Holidays
Finding balance during the holidays isn’t about missing out – it’s about being fully present for the moments that matter most. By setting boundaries, scheduling downtime, and adding in mini self-care rituals, you can enjoy the season while still taking care of yourself.
One final tip: It all starts by listening to your body. Pay attention to how you’re feeling, listen to the signals it’s sending you, and then take the next best step to look after yourself.
Kate x
