In last week’s post, I answered Lara’s question about how to stop dismissing praise, compliments, and positive feedback – which is a very common feature of imposter syndrome.
In today’s post, I’m going to provide you with some more practical techniques for managing and, ultimately helping you work towards, overcoming the inner bully that is imposter syndrome:
Acknowledge & recognise imposter syndrome
The first step in managing imposter syndrome is to simply acknowledge and recognise that you are experiencing it – label it for what it is: “imposter syndrome”. Once you do this, you can start to separate yourself from what is happening, which then allows you to see it as something you can work on and fix.
Secondly, understanding and acknowledging that these feelings are very common and that many high-achieving individuals do in fact face them as well (I can vouch for this), is another key step in taking away some of its power!
Set realistic goals & expectations
Imposter syndrome is very common in people who struggle with perfectionism. So, there’s likely some work to do here around replacing perfectionistic tendencies with realistic, achievable goals and expectations of yourself.
It’s also about understanding that perfection is an illusion and that making mistakes is unavoidable and necessary on the journey to success. You need to embrace and even welcome imperfection as a natural part of life.
Cultivating more of a growth mindset is key here, particularly in the way you view (perceived) challenges, setbacks, and ‘failures’. A growth mindset individual sees these things as opportunities for learning and growth – it’s a focus on your continual improvement and development rather than fearing inadequacy.
Use positive visualisation
Another tool that might sound silly, but it’s one that can in fact be very powerful, is practising visualisation techniques where you see yourself succeeding and feeling confident. This can help reprogram your mind to focus on your capabilities rather than self-doubt.
It can be especially effective to do this before something you’re nervous or worried about – for example, an important meeting, presentation, interview etc. Take time before the event to go over in your mind how you ideally want it to go, imagine yourself doing really well. The best time to do this is just before you go to sleep and when you first wake up, but any time is beneficial.
Celebrate & reward yourself
In last week’s post, I discussed recording and making note of your achievements, positive feedback, and praise – However, it is ALSO very important that you take time to celebrate your accomplishments, no matter how small.
One of the most powerful ways to overcome imposter syndrome is to reinforce the things you do well. For example, literally saying to yourself things like; “Well done – you did so well” … “I know you were feeling very anxious about this presentation but look at how well it went, despite the fact you felt nervous, you pulled it off and received great feedback!”. It’s about speaking to yourself in an encouraging tone, as you would to a loved one.
Then, to reinforce things further, treat yourself to something as a reward – for example, some nice chocolates, a massage, a new item of clothing or jewellery, a nice dinner, a scented candle, some new perfume or cologne, a good bottle of wine, weekend away or even spa break or retreat etc – whatever feels like a treat for you!
Get support
Lastly, talk to trusted friends, family members, or colleagues about your feelings. Sharing your experiences can provide emotional support and help you gain perspective on your abilities.
Or, if imposter syndrome is significantly impacting your wellbeing and performance, consider finding a mentor or coach who can provide guidance, advice, and support in your personal and professional development. They can help you gain confidence and perspective and if you meet them on a regular basis following a structured approach, even better!
However, if these issues are seriously affecting your mental health and overall well-being then consider seeking support from a therapist or counsellor specialising in self-esteem and self-doubt concerns.
Remember that managing imposter syndrome is an ongoing process, and it may require a combination of these techniques. It’s important to be patient with yourself and to seek help or support when needed. With time and effort, you can build confidence and overcome imposter syndrome, allowing your true self and capabilities to shine through.
If you’re struggling with imposter syndrome and feel you could benefit from some coaching to help you overcome the internal bully and move forward in your career and life with more self-worth and true inner confidence, get in touch for a complimentary consultation.
Kate x
