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The mindset shift that will change everything

The mindset shift that will change everything

Today I want to give you a little bit of tough love.


From my perspective this isn’t tough love at all, but I know to the majority of people it might feel like it is … and it might even slightly p*ss you off!


I want to get real here and expose a side to most people’s nature that is so automatic but really doesn’t make sense when you separate yourself from any ego attachment and look at what is actually going on.


The majority of people I speak to on a weekly basis, whether it be people enquiring to work with me or random people sharing their wellbeing struggles, are so resistant to prioritise spending money on themselves!


To me this is not only incredibly sad but it’s also SO frustrating.

Because if you dig a little deeper, they’re quite open to dropping sizeable amounts of money on things like designer handbags, jewellery, clothes, shoes, home and kitchen accessories, holidays, cosmetics and  procedures, home improvements, fancy meals, concert tickets … you name it.


But they clam up at the idea of spending a considerable amount on their mental, physical and/or emotional health?!?!?

And this is all despite the fact they may be suffering with their weight, health, skin, digestion, stress, anxiety, confidence, energy, sleep, relationships, finances etc — you name it — and in ways that literally affect every aspect of their life!

Now stop for a moment – doesn’t that seem a little crazy?


A person is struggling with an issue that could be affecting their whole life experience and yet they give more priority to for example, the house move they want to make – even though this particular person may be dealing with chronic anxiety, OCD to the point where they often struggle to leave the house on time and then the knock on effect is that this causes major stress and guilt because they’re always a little late for work and arrive feeling a bit of a mess and go into the day wired on stress hormones.


That’s just one example out of so many possible scenarios I can think of.  


So, what happens here is they continue to spend another maybe year of their life dealing with these issues – which in turn could be affecting their chances of promotion at work, their relationship with their significant other, their health (as we all know chronic stress leads to health-related issues, it can’t not)… But their priority is saving to move into a bigger home and ‘keeping up with the Joneses’ – i.e. what society ‘expects’ of us.


Does this seem a little foolish to you?


You only get one life and in the case of this hypothetical person, they can’t get that additional year of stress, fear, anxiety back.


Not to mention what could happen if they did work on themselves — if they resolved their OCD and subsequent lateness and stress, which in turn meant they were far more focussed and proactive at work leading to a better bonus or promotion … and that bonus or promotion would have more than paid for the investment in their growth, never-mind improve their overall quality of life!

What so many people fail to realise or focus on that this isn’t about ‘spending’ – it’s an investment. And your return on that investment (YOU) is not only priceless but potentially life-changing — on many fundamental levels.

You don’t just resolve the issue(s), you learn so much about yourself in the process that you quite literally ‘up-level’ … You learn how to get out of your own way, how to be a better person, to feel better, to perform better in your chosen field and to live your best life.

And these things can never be taken away … you can’t unlearn self-awareness.

So my motive in sharing this is to open your mind around investing in yourself.


Now, I will admit it took me a while to come to this way of thinking myself when I first started investing in my growth. To think that I balked and really hesitated around spending £170 on my first motivational course about 10 years ago. I was really scared, and yet now I look back at what I’ve spent over the years and that £170 seems like absolutely nothing!


That’s not to say I don’t appreciate that people are on different levels of income, however I also know that when you look at what a person is spending their money on, you’ll often find a way to get the money by removing things that are actually far less important.


So, from my own personal experience of working on myself, the transformations I’ve witnessed in clients and also friends who have invested in their evolution, I’m hugely passionate about standing up for the person who is struggling yet unaware of how important doing ‘the work’ is.


As the saying goes, you don’t know what you don’t know.


So, what I want to impress on you is that if there’s an area in your life where you know you’re holding yourself back, or maybe you can sense there’s potential for so much more, don’t delay doing something about it. You will not regret it.



“The best investment you can make is in yourself because

it will pay you back for the rest of your life”

Robin Sharma



If you want to do better, be better, have better in any way, I highly recommend that you invest in someone or something that can help you get there.


This could be anything from podcasts or books on the topic to courses or coaching but make your own personal growth one of your top priorities.


You can’t get a better return than on your self, your quality of life and your potential!





Kate Horwood