This week I’m speaking to the ladies, which is around 98% of you on my list … however for the men here, I still encourage you to read on as this could be useful information for the ladies in your life!
Today I want to talk about the power of women supporting women…
There’s something magical that happens when women come together.
Even to this day, I’m continually surprised by the amazing effects of this in my own life.
Since starting my business around 6 years ago now, I can’t tell you how many female friends, mentors and coaches have massively helped me along the way.
In fact, this is so synchronistic, but whilst I sit in a café writing this, a lady at the next table just started chatting to me and we’ve been talking non-stop for the past 2 hours!!
Without really trying, she had so much insight and wisdom to share … and I can say that she ended up having quite a profound effect on my mindset around a few things in my life.
… And now I think about it, I recommend she tried a functional doctor regarding some health issues that came up in conversation and who knows, if she follows up on that, I may have done something that has the potential to change her life for the better as well!
I like to say that your support network is a part of your wellbeing regime, precisely because they can and do make all the difference to your overall wellbeing.
I follow the work of an amazing lady called Claire Zammit who runs a very successful transformational company called Evolving Wisdom offering coaching courses for women around the theme of ‘feminine power’.
Claire teaches her students that in order to fully embody our personal power as a woman, we need 3 things or, as she calls them, the ‘three pillars of feminine power’:
- To be able to break our own (internal) inner glass ceiling – basically our own critical, negative voice.
- To trust our intuition over logic.
- To have a strong, healthy support network of women who inspire, motivate and who have our back.
So, you may be wondering why this is different for women, or feminine nature, over men and masculine nature…
Feminine nature is externally motivated; we’re very much affected by the people around us and our environment … and it’s not because we have low self-esteem, it’s actually because of the way that our brains work. The core of feminine instinct is to connect, nurture and improve.
Men or masculine nature however, is 100% internally motivated. Men always work inside of a plan that they have devised, and whether someone else likes it or not, a man will instinctively work towards that plan. He may also have external inspiration which can trigger him to act, however that external inspiration does not do it by purposeful influence, the very fact it exists motivates him – in other words, he’s motivated by its existence, not because that external thing is trying to motivate him … (hint – this is what criticism does not work with men!!)
You may also notice that you very rarely find men being critical, of themselves or others, whereas most women … !
If you want to find out more about how men and women (or masculine and feminine nature) are wired so very differently, I highly recommend you look into the work of relationship coach and gender educator, Alison Armstrong. She is simply AMAZING, and I’ve recommended her books, work and videos to many of my friends, family and clients.
So, I want you to think about who you have supporting you in your life?
When working towards a specific goal or if there’s an area in your life where you are wanting to make improvements, it helps if you have someone who has been there and done what you want to do or has got where you want to go.
This person could be a friend, professional, mentor figure or even a famous person if you listen to their podcasts for example …
Here are some areas in your life where you might benefit from a solid ‘feminine power’ support system – anything from someone to simply talk to, bounce ideas off or it could be a professional level of support where you invest in a service:
- Sex life
- Look after elderly parents
- General emotional support
- Personal style
There are many sub-categories that fall under the topics above, but I would suggest you look at an area in your life where you want to achieve something or perhaps it’s an area where you are struggling, and think about whether or not you have a female figure who is a strong source of inspiration, encouragement and nurturing accountability in this area…
If not, please take my word for it, that having some feminine natured support in that area will make the world of a difference!
Wishing you a wonderful weekend.